How to stop blushing when you are embarrassed and especially when you speak in public. If you read this, I am pretty sure you know this sensation: you feel the redness creep up from your neck to your cheeks, but there’s nothing you can do to stop it. Right?
Most of the time, when you grow up, you develop self-confidence and you stop blushing. But sometimes, even if you are an adult, you are still going to get red, usually at the worst moment ever. In this video, I will share with you 3 tips for reducing blushing and my ultimate tip for feeling okay with this.
Blushing in public is a quite common and underestimated problem. When you see the number of searches on Google or YouTube on this subject, you will know that finding solutions to stop turning red is very important.
We blush when we feel embarrassed, stressed, as well as when we are afraid to blush. It is true that when we are an entrepreneur and we turn red in front of a client, during a pitch, or during a web conference, it is embarrassing.
I’m going to share 3 solutions to stop turning red. Please stay until the end of the video or read the full article to learn my very personal trick that has always worked for me.
Have you noticed that when we’re on holiday, when we’re relaxed, we blush way less often? The goal is to feel like you’re on holiday or almost.
You have to find the method that suits you best to relax. One of the methods is to learn how to breathe.
Breathing is a simple and effective way to feel relaxed:
Inhale deeply through your nose and count to three, then exhale through your mouth and count to four or five.
Abdominal breathing increases the supply of oxygen to the brain and body and generates calm and relaxation. Practice it as soon as you feel the redness coming up to your cheeks or at least just before every important moment that can potentially make you blush.
2. Stop thinking about it
I know, it is easier said than done.
But you know the harder we try not to blush, the more we blush.
When you feel the redness coming up, you think : I cannot blush now and of course… you are going to blush.
According to the therapists, you should not try to stop it. If it comes, focus your attention on what you are saying or on your conversation. Let this sensation come up, don’t block it. You should even force it. It will go away much faster.
3. Dealing with stressful situations
If you tend to avoid situations that make you blush, it will only increase your fear of being in that situation. On the contrary, you need to confront it. For example, are you afraid of making a public presentation and getting questions you don’t know how to answer?
Find someone you trust and practice in front of her. Ask him or her to embarrass you so you will blush and learn how to handle and accept it. The idea is to get used to these kinds of situations.
Now you know the three tips for dealing with your blushes. But I still have one more tip to share, which I have often used in my personal or professional life.
My very personal Tip
My tip is to play it and even joke about it. You’re pitching in front of 50 people, and you feel like you’re going to turn red ? Play with it !
‘’[on-stage] Am I red now? I knew it, I should not have told you this.’’
If you’re not afraid of a touch of humor, go ahead and use it.
I just want you to know that nobody usually cares if you turn red. Most people will even be sympathetic and they can often put themselves in your shoes. You are simply authentic with your blushes.
If you feel that you need help to be comfortable in public or in front of the camera, I invite you to make an appointment with me.
Let me know in the comment which advice did you like most?